Relationship with husband at the 2nd year of marriage.

His underwears and worn clothers are on the floor, bathroom or on the bed- I pick them up for laundry. 

He is usually on standby mode after work, and will only activate himself when dinner is served. And will just leave his dish at the sink, hoping someone will clear it for him. Most of the time, babysitter or I will be his faithful servants.

Having a 11-month-old baby at this time, he hardly assume full-fledge responsibility in caring for the baby with excuses that Baby doesnt want him, or he has no breasts to pacify our daughter.

I blame the upbringing of his mother for spoiling the son that way, giving him the idea that someone else will take care of UNNECESSARY chores for him.

Well, on occasional times he will change the attitude for short period. That usually happen when I scold him or criticise the mother.

By doing those nagging, I am not sure how much he would feel annoyed. I am also risked in losing him to another third party.

However, as of now, he shows the commitment in a very not obvious way to care for both of us. (The indifference facial expression, but says a lot of concern words). For example, during midnight when baby suddenly sequeled for breastmilk, then he would panicly wake up to see what was going on.

Other time, he would carefully monitor and prohibit any unhealthy amount of food given to baby, or make sure that water bath has just good temperature for baby to play with.

He also makes sure that he comes home to see baby and I. And Im thankful that he listens to what I do on that particular working day.

Perhaps that his work has caused him to be laid back, but he told me that, "One has to sacrifice with the petty work, as the other half is concentrating on providing money,". 

Yes, one has to give in to make the family together.