Your Asian mom

Yesterday, I met an acquaintance I hadn’t seen in a while — someone many people know for her ongoing appeals for donations to support her sick child. Her story has always been a deeply emotional one. From the very beginning, she was told by doctors that her child might not survive. Yet, she and her partner chose to go ahead with the pregnancy. Against the odds, the child lived — a miracle , many would say. But the journey since then has been far from easy, marked by recurring complications, constant medical care, and of course, mounting financial costs. Over the years, I have often wondered about the decisions she made. She once had a well-paying job, yet chose to leave it for a much lower-paying one. She also left a financially stable marriage for a partner with uncertain income . With her qualifications, I always thought she could have returned to a more stable career instead of relying on public donations . But life is rarely that simple. There are always stories behind choices tha...

Came across an article by The New Straits Times on "Many couples choose not to have children".  It is an interesting article that discuss at length of the reasons that married couples are looking into such direction. Briefly, reasons behind the decision include inability to conceive; hardly to survive financially even with double-income family; as well as career-oriented. What shocked me more is the article stated that besides women focusing on career, it also highlighted that a marriage institution nowadays is more to high-ranking men telling their wives "you would be lucky if you see me tonight" due to job commitment. I believe it is a tough decision for every couple when it comes to whether having or not having own kids. Another human in the family, especially minors, mean there would be more expenses incured. On today's world, where everything require money. Is it wise to have many kids? Perhaply two would be ideal or maximum for family who come fr...