Your Asian mom

My husband is excited to become a good daddy to my now 6-week baby, but doesn't really know how to bring out the appropriate motherly attitude to serve the infant better. This sperm contributor is repetitively fall in love with his product. Everytime when he comes back home from work in the evening, he will lie down next to the baby and admire her face and movement. Never get tired. However, his masculine voice is as loud as thunderstorm, even if he is whispering to me and the tiny human. It ended up that the love of my life always awakened our light sleeper child. Like most of the mothers in the world, would usually give angry stare at their husbands as it is in fact difficult to put baby to sleep. As I am doing the breastfeeding all the time, daddy has no chance to bond with baby during the feeding session. It ends up daddy's role is just to pass the baby to my arms whenever she cries. Other that that, daddy tends to ask on the comfort level that the baby has, as they...

It is indescribable joy when I had the bundle of joy in my arm immediately after 10 hours of labor pain. I couldn't believe that I actually made that tiny human being. The next 24-hour, I felt energetic to breastfeed the sleepy girl. The surge of energy continued for the first two weeks. I wanted to protect her from others which potentially posed hazards to her- to introduce bottle feeding and pacifier while combating the possibility of neonatal jaundice getting worse. The feeling of wanting to secure her had actually led to a thought to resign work so that I could give her the best care. But, I didn't do so... On the second month, whereby I was almost all by myself taking care of the infant as well as the house chores, I started to feel bored and insecure. I was looking at the main door and thinking when would I be able to step out from the house as freely as I was before. It will be dangerous and troublesome to bring infant who needs to be breastfed on demand outside ...

I am done with my one- month confinement period which I fully breastfed baby. As I am going back to work in less than a month time, I really have to introduce bottle to my little one. However, after getting comfortable with my soft nipple and the warmth of the body, she certainly refusing to latch on the artificial nipple. She even spitted out my hard earned express milk!!! Even worse, she's crying as loud as she could to protest. Not even that, she tends to cry histerically at night (just to let her daddy knows that I'd bullied her during daytime). My concerns include whether my expressed milk supply will be adequate for her when I am away to work. And, will the future babysitter be able to bottlefeed her? I am also worried if she manages to bottlefeed her, how is she going to sleep without latching on nipples until she falls asleep as it usually happen while she is breastfed. Until the arrival of maid next week, I wouldnt know what will happen.

I am nearly at the end of the 30-day of confinement period. It means that I am getting stronger and will soon have to do the babysitting, house chores, cooking all by myself. How was it to be in the confinement state? As I was about to deliver, many had told me that a woman has to be very careful during those period as she will be at her most fragile condition. I was quite worried as I thought I would be bed-ridden, severely sick and etc. The thought that I had to fully dependent on others was not that I intend to be.  However, it turned out that I felt quite energetic after few hours of laboring the baby except I could feel numbness at the perineum side with sanitary pad soaked with blood. Other than that, it wasn't as bad as what had been told. Despite the surge feeling to do everything as usual.As I have used to move fast in everything,  I was repeatedly advised by older people i.e mother and mother-in-law to walk slowly and sit like a princess (no crossing leg) to pr...

Unless the baby is unwell, there's no way to ensure a newborn sleep through the night as adults usually do. I am sharing my way of taking care of her at night time as I find mothers' who share theirs on line has helped me a lot going through the phase. I put my one-month-old baby to our bedroom, where she is co-sleeping with us, at about 9.30pm. As newborns have problem to differentiate days and nights, I initiate some routines for her to understand the time- which she is supposed to sleep through the night as she is growing up. Among the routines include cleaning her up with damp warm clothes (will bath her later after confinement period), dress her into a pyjama and change to diapers. Swaddling her seems giving her the sense of security which reduce awakening episodes as the tightness reduce her startle reflex. Other than that, yes, I do give her forehead kisses which I don't during daytime. Of course, we also reduce other stimuli such as the light intensity and c...

I actually googled the least sleeping hours required by a new mother. As I had been sleeping less than my usual 8 hours routine to put three-week-old baby to sleep especially at night. Yes, she likes to take short naps and will cry for more milk when she is awake. As I have yet introduce botlefeed her with expressed milk, (due to mother in law's presence who disallow it for thinking the milk isnt fresher/ safer than impromptu prepared infant formula), the responsibility to cuddle and feed her fall solely on my shoulder. Each feeding will take about 30minutes, and the cuddling time that will put her into deep sleep is another 30minutes. As the action is done in sitting position, it really hurt my back although I was sitting with straight back and supported with pillows. There were two times which I lost my patience...that I scolded the baby. And she could feel it and even cried harder and became more irritable. It was quite dangerous though as at that stage any exhausted caret...

It's my day 15th when I typed out this post. At the eleventh hour after I delivered my 3.25kg baby girl to the world, my husband bought flight ticket from Penang to here for mom-in-law to be my confinement lady. I was not the good daughter-in-law who could tolerate her presence between husband and I. Therefore, I was a bit hesitant and reluctant to have her around at this time. And, earlier I had warned spouse about it as well as I was scared to have postpartum blue later. Explaining on the not so good chemistry between us is mainly because of the generation and knowledge gaps. I, blaming the inheritance of impatience gene from my father's side, could not tolerate people repeating aka nagging me more than three times. Secondly, I point fingers on the knowledge acquired as of now which usually contrast with mom-in-law's beliefs based on eerience and old wies tales. For examples, Neonatal jaundice- focus on breastfeeding. But, she insisted to give infant formula, mi...