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A child with parental love deprivation who found a good lover to fill in the gap-Part 2.

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When I met my husband in 2005 , he was not someone whom I expect to be able to give romance as what I have imagined to be happened in any Disney’s Happily ever after cartoon series. In fact, there were a lot of disagreements even on the slightest matter such as where to eat for dinner, drinking too many sweet drinks, and etc. But strange enough, I chose to stay in the relationship long enough to the extend I accepted his invitation to stay at his parents’ house during holiday break. If I could have afford flight tickets to go back hometown back then, I wouldn’t have the chance to travel to Cameron Highland, Pulau Redang, Pulau Perhentian, Genting Highlands and many places during my undergraduates. We wouldn’t have jointly bought a compact camera and captured so many fond memories, too. Seriously I wouldn’t have the “vision” that two of us get married in the end. Back then, I seconded the idea of staying out of marriage, put thorough focus on career, and even felt honour

A child with parental love deprivation who found a good lover to fill in the gap-Part 1.

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Where or who do neglected children usually resort to in order to fill in the years-long of love deprivation indirectly caused by his parents? There are many instances where those children, grow up into teenagers, desperately looking for lovers of their age to get the love and attention. Due to the immature or fantasy thought that their lovers will treat them better for long term, they are willing to get into sex out of wedlock, impregnated and etc.  As a middle child, I lived a life which my parents will put me as later priority than other siblings. Knowing there's no way to get mom's and dad's attention mainly on me, except scoring good result at schools, I had been putting a lot of effort to do well in my study.  But it seemed like my independence on becoming a good child made my parents strayed from their roles to take better care of me. It became more obvious when I studied my diploma and degree away from home.  During that period of about 6 years,