Your Asian mom

My reaction to the complaint is, "Two months of holiday is not long enough for you?" The teacher then responded that such length of period would not be sufficient to compensate on what she experienced at school. She described the work at school was too pack that she had had not well-rested/enjoyed the two months break. I have no intention to humilate her or other teachers. But, one shall learn to be appreciative of off days, more so on leave approved by organisation he or she is working with, Not everyone including Prime Minister has the privileged to enjoy an interrupted time-off. Datuk Seri Mohd Najib was recalled to oversee the flood situation while on holiday. I personally would not blame him over his absence during the woes, its Natural Disaster, as he eventually back to the country and travel everyday despite that he might experience jet lag. It is tough for him or anyone on highly paid but no personal lives. So, stop complaining. Just enjoy everyday of give

Not to be sound derogatry but new parents who rather follow what their ancestors do rather than doing read up are often repeat the same tradition in parenting next generation. There might be no harm on it as our parents had successfully brought us up. But like how technology and science have done in life improvement. It is worth to consider a change or modification based on western style in caring the children. Asian: TO EAT WHILE ITS HOT, MUST BE SPOONFEED and ALLOWED TO WALK AROUND DURING MEAL My verdict: Warm food is ok, but hot food will injure my toddler's mouth and throat and the tendency to develop cancer is there (touch wood). And focusing on the essence of having to swallow food in short time, to ensure the food is hot...will risk her to get choked.  As toddler is reaching 18 months, she could actually hold spoon and sometimes with fork. To encourage her feed herself as early as possible is good as she will be independent and enjoy her meal when dine out. Running around wh

He just turned 30 this Nov 3. On that day, we just had a simple dinner at a restaurant together with the 15-month-old toddler. There was not much things we could do with the presence of a young kid who plays a lot, and need a lot of rests too. Surprisingly, he was okay for that. AND, he actually slept as early as the baby did at around 9pm. So, after I cuddled baby to bed, I went to husband who was lying. Asked him on what kind of wishes he had on his born day? He actually hopes that toddler and I will always in good health. Wow, he loves us so much as if I were him I would wish that I will live long to take care of them. So, I forced him to wish that he would be in pink of health too. I become a different person after get married to him. It seems like my welfare has no longer be the business of my parents. He shares my happiness, worry and other difficulties. Both of us are living symbiosis to each other although I sound like reaping only benefits of assurance from him almost

I kept telling husband that I don't want another baby now as I know I won't be able to cope to have another young kid in my life. While their adorableness could instantly kill all the negative feelings at other times, but ensuring the tiny human to be well all the time is difficult and require sacrifice in terms of personal freedom and comfort emotionally, and even financially. Having a child at the age of 27, a span of lifetime where I just graduated and start enjoying my income, is a bit too much at this modern age.   It is worsened when I am surrounded with unmarried colleagues who might see my routine going back home at sharp 5pm everyday for baby is mere excuse and irresponsible. I do feel bad when I have to repetitively turn their invites down for happy hour after work. My priority is to spend as much time with baby as almost 80 per cent of my days are already being spared in works matter. Our children will grow fast without we realise it, there will be time where she sud

On his first two years housemanship, he usually came home only wanting to compensate the sleeps that he deprived while on call every other day. Thus, as his then fiance, I was only focusing on his welfare such as cooking or bought takeaway meals to his rented house.  When he felt life should not be just working and literally dying on the bed, he would suggest a two-day group vacations in the state. Graduating from the compulsory internship at government sector, he decided to put himself in Anaesthesiology, a specialisation in putting people to temporarily unconscious state during surgery and also handling critically illed people in Intensive care unit wards. Among the reasons that made him decide on it is to stay in Kota Kinabalu as my career requires me to be in the state capital other than other districts. Anaesthesiologist has post call day off, which gives good rest and better quality of life. During his intense on call days, he easily get sick due to low immunity system lacking of

Booked last minute for Raya Haji public holiday via booking.com. Surprisingly, the rate was higher than making it via the resort official website. I had RM430 without breakfast, whilst the resort rate at that time was RM388 nett including breakfast. We wanted to book Raintree and Golf Beach resort which is located at the same area in sepanggar, Kota Kinabalu Sabah, as the price is around RM200 with more spacious villa and lots more beachside games compared to Nexus. I must say that Nexus Borneo seaview room offers breathtaking scene of sea with soothing music of the waves. other aspects were pretty disappointing for RM430.  I was with husband and a toddler for vacation. When the child got hurt due to the facility, it ruined our mood during the two days one night stay. The room is not carpeted, my child who toddles unsteadily fell on the hard wood and cried in pain. Although I stated in the booking that I would come with kid, but still I got a room with two HIGH single beds. How am I su

Being freshly graduated or just in final year is not an excuse for an intern to be slack or being too dependent on seniors. After years of exposure to knowledge in University, those preparation should be equipped a newbie to be useful for 40 per cent in any organisation. It would be unfortunate for everyone if the intern does not score well or being serious in his or study as the seniors end up in teaching from the VERY basic or precisely babysitting them while there are already tonne of work. Internship is supposed to be beneficial for both interns in terms of gaining experience and staff is to share load. On first few days, it is understandable anyone new to a company need time to adjust or understand their roles. Be nice and humble to staff in the office including cleaners, do say Hi and please introduce yourself. The staff need to know what to call you, or the purpose a new face is hanging around the property. Learn as fast as possible on Do's and Don'ts.  The typical unacc

Had a chance to taste the ice cream with goji berry flavor.  Its cover is plastic, and the cup of about 100cc is made of paper. Looked around but there is no Halal logo, nor the calories amount. Surprise, it is in orange color. Sweetness is 6.5/ 10.  And it is really creamy... Have no idea how much it is priced. Only know that its selections of other seven flavors are using local ingredients- mango, tongkat ali, vanila, chocolate, coffee and etc. It is labelled as Sabah Froz product, but owner of the company is from *peninsular Malaysia.* They are available at Sutera horbour Marina jetty. 

Dined at Wisma Kinsabina, along Jalan Penampang after sunset mass recently. Brought along a 13-month-old toddler for the feast, thats why I was entitled to order kid's meal. There are about three choices- but I guess Dragon ball pasta would suit toddler best. Initially, I thought the chicken balls would be big..but the title implies the seven dragon balls of marble size. Being sceptical on outside food will always have MSG, but chef at Wisma Kinsabina is so considerate. The smiley potatoes are baked and only sprinkled with minimal salt. While the paste for pasta has concentrated tomatoes purees. That dragon ball is minced and soft.  However, that bread stick was too sweet for me. thus, excluded it for good review. Price is RM14 per plate. (I shared with baby).  I am a sweet tooth person, thus going for Pavlova as I never tried it before although heard its goodness many times from everyone. This is how it looks like... Rm14 for a pavlova stuck with a set of macaroon accompanied with

Gaya Street, or the Sunday morning market, lined up with hundreds of stalls along five blocks of the central city of Kota Kinabalu is a must-visit for visitors. For shutterbugs, this is also a good place to get good pictures. Pictures attached are the recommended buying at the market. Pearls. Seafood balls ( prawn, octopus, and crab crackers) originated from East Coast Sabah will definitely promise unforgetful craving after one try. Price ranges from RM5- RM30 depending on packaging sizes. Orchids and other plants. Sellers are usually friendly enough to share caring tips.  There are also pets on sale, but didnt take pictures as it is not allowed. I like the traditional crafting made from woods, or even shells. But haven't buy any yet as I am busy handing fast growing toddler.  It is definitely going to be a happy walk under the Sunday sun as the street will be aired with country or Chinese oldies songs. Even traditional gongs sound. Otherwise, get a free Tenom coffee aroma- Arabica

This is the place for someone who is intensely hungry and could eat worth or more than RM35. There are various of dishes ranging from normal processed fish, meat and crab balls; marinated poultry; vegetables; dessert and sushi.  There are also about 20 types of condiments. Those items are either ready cooked, to be boil in tom yam/chicken soup or stir fried as shown at the attached picture. I am not sure how long has it been opened, but surely long enough that tableware are either have some cracks, dimples or worn out signs. Thus, the appearance has upset me a bit as those symbolise unlucky for diners. As the restaurant is serving hundreds customers a day, I doubt that there will be strict quality control than just for the sake of having what they have to served to be on the serving table. For examples, will they wash off pesticide substance on each and every leaf of vegetables? Will they look out on the excessive fruits exposed to air? Do they use boiled water or just melted ice cubes

Once you are involved in it, it will affect your mood to be in the workplace. While I have chosen to stay out of it when I started my work about four years ago..I still cannot avoid it as I usually meant to build friendship rather than accumulate hatred gossip against others. Over many lunch and afternoon tea break, she would blurted out how bad is another colleagues. It left me no choice but to pretendly follow the conversation which would make me feel guilty and sinful.  It is even worse when she told me that there were several times that her allies and her were being sarcastic over an individual, but dissappointed that the alleged did not get the hint.  Oh my, I start wondering if she's ever being sarcastic to me but I didn't catch it.  Am I a friend or foe to her?  Some of the things that make her angry or annoyed are also petty stuff like intern doing things they like without consulting the boss, others took her thing, and even when other senior told her its a decorum to s

Baby fell sick about two weeks ago but resolved few days later, she was not that severe but the chesty cough persisted till she had another round of high fever of 39 degree celcius this week. It was frightening as she was hardly responsive to antipyretic, cold patch on foreheads and tepid spinge that I was afraid she would have a fit.  The situation went on for five days that I had to take three days emergency leave to take care of her. babysitter got panic also whe she took care of her alone at home. A lot of thought went into my mind on what's wrong? Could it be dengue? Or other more severe diseases such as Thalassaemia, cancers, and others?  I prayed hardly on her third night to St Jude to lower her temperature and shed light on what's going on. Surprisingly, it helped. She was okay the next morning, her head felt warm and was more cheerful. Not long after that, before night bedtime, few spotty rash appeared around jawline and behind ears. Whole body was full with rashes but

Baby is turning one in few more days, but she still prefers having milk directly from my boobs. I am okay with the situation as direct breastfeeding saves time as I don't have to sterilise bottle and prepare the milk in the midst of travelling or at night time. It is just that baby is getting taller/longer that breastfeeding would preferably take place at spacious area. On which brand breastpump that I used to express milk at workplace? I bought Medela, an electrical single pump worth about RM100.  But found out that machine could not yield as much milk despite I'd spent about half hour in washroom, perhaps its my technique or small boobs size also that there was still incident of engorgement after pumping.  Other thing that bother me was the availability to sterilise the equipment. It was by accident that I chose to hand-express milk until today, I left pump several time as I rushed to work. And as I had no choice that time, I just use hands to do the job. Surprisingly,

His underwears and worn clothers are on the floor, bathroom or on the bed- I pick them up for laundry.  He is usually on standby mode after work, and will only activate himself when dinner is served. And will just leave his dish at the sink, hoping someone will clear it for him. Most of the time, babysitter or I will be his faithful servants. Having a 11-month-old baby at this time, he hardly assume full-fledge responsibility in caring for the baby with excuses that Baby doesnt want him, or he has no breasts to pacify our daughter. I blame the upbringing of his mother for spoiling the son that way, giving him the idea that someone else will take care of UNNECESSARY chores for him. Well, on occasional times he will change the attitude for short period. That usually happen when I scold him or criticise the mother. By doing those nagging, I am not sure how much he would feel annoyed. I am also risked in losing him to another third party. However, as of now, he shows the commitment in a ve

It is a good hotel but without swimming pool and spa package.  It comes with complementary breakfast buffet for two persons.  But the variety is limited enough to fill in hungry tummy. Seriously their restaurant is at the entrance/lobby of the hotel. The night before wedding dinner guests had to sit outside and looked at the projector screen to know whats ongoing inside the hall. The view from hotel room is the Keningau Sports Complex. Sink that I used to bath 10-month-old baby. Of course I disinfected it beforehand. It is a comfortable stay for a RM230 rate per night, clean and spacious.  And of course free WiFi with super good connection that I could blog this smoothly. 

Baristas are good looking and cappuccino is great. 

Head to Taska Medix if your jobs require parents to work on odd hours. I wish I have found this earlier as I really need this kind of service for I also work on weekends and sometimes extend working hours to late night. The place located near Kian Kok Middle school or simply google the German restaurant Gunter's gasthouse.  For a closer look on the care center.. I didn't able to take the interiors but rest assure that it is clean, organised, and separates rooms according to age of children- Babies, toddlers and preschoolers. I was so amazed looking at one babysitter surrounded by eight babies sleeping in portable carseats. The owner is a hajah from Peninsular Malaysia, and she has about 10 trained muslim staff to handle all children. As for child care fees include meals. From 2months to 2 years  FULL Dy: RM450/ month (free 1 overnight stay) Half Day: RM250/month (free 1 overnight stay). Hourly charges: RM20 for the first 2 hours and RM5 for subsequent hour.  Overnight and Satur

As the title says, I am reviewing the cafe with negative comments after my first and last visit. Had good recommendations from acquaintances about how delicious those food are, decided to give it a try on weekend. Husband and I were surprised that the place was full and there were only half slots for patrons to share tables. But, the empty space was as messy as rubbish bin, no need to mention the floor. I insisted to leave to other restaurants available at the Karamunsing capital or other areas. But husband already sat on a half table hoping the crew would clean up the mess, but the worker only did so on the former's third call. We took turn guarding the half table..when it was my time to take the buffet spread of asian delicacies such as hinava, sambal petai, fish and etc, there was no plates. I waited and stood almost five minutes  before they took another stack of clean plates.  Ordered a warm water and laici bandung right after we were about to dig in. My angry meter started to

Lucy's kitchen is well known to foodies especially those with sweet tooth. But, I am not going to do review on its food. More to the restaurant's staff. As of now, there are two branches in Kota Kinabalu that include Taman Sri Kepayan near airport, and the other one is at Metrotown. While I live in between two outlets, we usually go both.  Yesterday was the fourth time we brought baby to Lucy's kitchen, despite of different workers on each visit, they would definitely over baby-friendly. I am not being arrogant for not letting them enjoying the cuteness and innocence of a little creature. But it doesnt matter male or female staff, both like to come near to baby-initially verbally greeting, waving, touching, pinching cheek and eventually carry her around. "Wei...the parents are around"!!!!! What if they didn't wash hands after toilet business? What if baby falls down when they carry her around? What if they spread flu/cough while handling the fragile baby? As a

As baby turns eight-month-old, it also means that I had sacrificed every single days during that period paying most attention to baby and seldom to myself.  In a month, I work 22 days while the rest are my off days. Although it looks like I only take a whole eight days with baby, but bear in mind that every nights of those months I have to lull her sleep.  Aside from that, I have the duty to cook dinner for the three of us including husband and babysitter.  Additional cleaning up the toilet in master bedroom which easily get dirty as husband is also using it.  Even if I took a day off in two months to visit salon and spa, yet I still feel unsure or guilty for leaving baby with babysitter as I hardly trust others will take good care of the former as I do. After all babysitter, although is my younger cousin, she might feel tired and thus being negligent in caring the baby.   Mom, on other hand, is sort of assuming very important duty at church that she has to be there for all occasions a

Baby is reaching 8-month old this coming March 31.  She has grown two lower incisors in the early of last month, did not suffer much during the teething process though. Due to the new appearance, baby seems to look like a toddler with her bulky body.  As for gross motor development, she has acquired komando crawling, sitting and tearing papers. Now is in the process of climbing almost everything including on my tummy when she is held tight during pre-bed rocking session. Sleeping at night is only tough on putting her to bed, after that she sleeps like nobody's business. But once I get up for shower, she could feel my absence and sit herself up with blurry face.  Her daily menu, I think is more to Asian style, is a three main courses over the day. For breakfast, she has mashed fruits such as papaya, banana and avocado; lunch and dinner, baby will have a half bowl of blended porridge mixed with green leafy vegetable and poultry. On occasional days, she will have hard stool. And only

Located next to upside down house. Ordered tiramisu dessert to quench thirst.

The man, or a friend, is still offering and hoping that I would say yes to have an affair with him whenever husband is not around. Seriously, that is super gross. And, yes, I have stopped contacting him right now. He, or anyone wants to steal my heart should know few facts before they plan to do so: 1/You have to earn more money than I do. It is not that I am materialitic, I don't even get allowance or trying to swipe my husband's credit card, but it turns me off when i have to pay bill for a parasite. It will make me wonder whether you want to be with me for the money i have. Not interrested to be anyone's sugar mommy. 2/ You better have a better looking than husband's. I am having a korean look alike husband, why should I cheat on him for someone as ugly as a monkey. 3/ No smoking guy- i hate smokers. 4/Smarter than me! I don't want to be with a child trapped in an adult body. 5/My husband has accepted my family-despite with all the weird stories behind it. It tak

Time really flies. When she reached 6-month-old milestone, husband and I are quite excited as she could venture into solid food journey. No longer depending on milk- husband and mother in law are always doubt whether  my milk has provide enough amount for Bree. I bought Panasonic blender worth RM129 with two large and a small containers. It is a must-have item as it saves times to crush porridge into easily digest particles.  As for the menu, I follow the health clinic's guideline on divide her diet into three large meal in the morning, lunchtime and dinner. For breakfast, I serve half cup of puree fruit(banana, papaya or avocado); and divide half porridge of rice, fish/pork/chicken and few leaves of green vege each for lunch and breakfast.  As she is teething for the third tooth, bree poops as much as five times a day with strong smell of papaya. It disrupts her sleep...and mine too. She wakes up as early as 5am or as late as 12 midnight just to poop out.  I feel quite lucky as st

Purchased this #Wenniest groupon for RM28, but was persuaded to pay another RM58 for so called "full treatment". I wanted to try the scalp treatment as I am having terrible hair fall after delivered my baby. I think about 200 hair drop on daily basis. My baby, on other hand, love to grasp them and attempt to put them into her mouth. Despite the great hair loss, it doesn't affect much on my appearance as my hair was as thick as bush.  Prior to proceeding for the treatment, the lady scanned through my scalp to analyze hair type. She used a torch that could magnify the image. .the result is my hair was oily and the scalp produces mild dandruff. They used the pungent smell of tonic meant for mentioned problems. The herbal sprays are made of aloe vera, dang gui, and few other Chinese herbs. I was told to keep my hair unwashed for three days. During that period, the tonic seemed to hold my hair follicle still in the scalp. But after that the problem persists. If I were to re-do

Here I was at the Grand Borneo's entrance,The Sidewalk cafe, enjoying my overpriced cheesy banana fritter with husband. The finger food of 8 pieces priced RM9.90. Coconut drink is RM8. I waited quite long for both to be served, but since I was on vacation. Ok lah.

A good friend of me had recently suggested me to have an affair with him, knowing that husband is always outstation. As far as I know him, he has never show interest on other women, despite the lady I introduced to him is super hot and pretty. I did that because I realised that he has the fire of love towards me in his eyes since I know him two years back- when I just graduated and started working , of course was still single. He looked disappointed when I told him I was recently married, but then he still continued to meet me for drinks. The proposal to cheat on my husband arose on the valentine's day when he found out I was alone with my baby on the special annual occasion. He didn't say that he had a crush on me, but rather said he wanted to feel the thrill to be in forbidden relationship. I told him, I am not interested as I don't want to commit in sinful life. My marriage is holy blessed in church, a relationship that God really look after since last year.

It has been 26 years since I know what is Valentine's day...I have always appreciate and see the day as something lovely. Until recently some people label it as a day dedicated to fuck each other. It is an unfair judgment and shouldn't even brought up..at least they should keep it to themselves rather than sharing it publicly because it ruins the mood.  Well, although this blog is viewable to netizens, however, there's not many traffic (A blessing in disguise, I must say). It is merely a personal platform for me to voice out my opinion.  As they always say everyday is Valentine's day...so does making love. Again, what's wrong for couple to get into intimate relationship if they are going to bear the consequences. And of course I am not referring to raping. On Valentine's day, I try not to offer my argument on this at Facebook and definitely will block any friends in list that annoy me with his or her know-it-all hatred message on this lovely day. On t

I am a very skinny person with no excess fat on my tummy. When i got pregnant, especially during the third trimester, the skin got stretched to ugly lines and worsened by the pigmentation. Baby is almost six-month-old, yet the ugly appearance is still there with the saggy skin folds. Until I heard advertisement at mix.fm, a local radio station, I never thought of  investing money on any product to treat the problem specifically. It introduces the Palmer Cocoa butter lotion. I got the 400ml product at Watson's in Wisma Merdeka shopping complex at about RM35. When I got home, after a shower,  i apply them around the affected area. The consistency of the lotion is quite thick but glides smoothly. Although the bottle states as "light scene", it is not that case. I smell like a kid who dropped her chocolate drink on the shirt. Even husband is complaining the smell, thought i was some kind of dirty and sloppy wife; Baby even puzzled when she gets near me for bre