Life of marrying a medical doctor.

On his first two years housemanship, he usually came home only wanting to compensate the sleeps that he deprived while on call every other day. Thus, as his then fiance, I was only focusing on his welfare such as cooking or bought takeaway meals to his rented house. 

When he felt life should not be just working and literally dying on the bed, he would suggest a two-day group vacations in the state.

Graduating from the compulsory internship at government sector, he decided to put himself in Anaesthesiology, a specialisation in putting people to temporarily unconscious state during surgery and also handling critically illed people in Intensive care unit wards.

Among the reasons that made him decide on it is to stay in Kota Kinabalu as my career requires me to be in the state capital other than other districts.

Anaesthesiologist has post call day off, which gives good rest and better quality of life. During his intense on call days, he easily get sick due to low immunity system lacking of rest.

While others including my parents see him as goldmine and a person worth for him to brag to other relatives or colleagues...I see him as a normal human being overworked and underpaid.

While others doing easier work but getting same salary as his, husband said he was happy to be able to help others who cant afford to get good medical treatment.

"I hope that someone would do the same as I did when my family and I are the one who become sick and under their cares,". 

When we were dating, he used to tell his ambition in serving victims in war field. I was flattered with it, instead of guys who bragged about how many girls they had slept with, or how much their fathers were earning, how obsess is one towards his religion that he would kill someone to honor God, and etc.

I am still glad that he didnt go to war field in the end...as I selfishly want him to be by our side.

Yes, the priority towards patients is always on top most of the time. However, when something happened to baby and I, he would abandon everything for us. Still a plus point.

His daily encounter in hospitals made him realise that life is SUPER short. By appreciating every moment with loved one, regret may be lessen later.

Despites he understood the potential backfire from giving advice on leading healthy lifestyle, husband thinks perhap his words could reduce the premature mortality among them. 

"There are many diseases that can be prevented if people are being responsible to their health. 

"Funds for government healthcare system is unnecessarily shrunken due to those people, whereas they could be used for more acute and natural illnesses,".

As a normal wife, I do nag her over small details such as forgetting to clear dishes, and etc. But, deep in my heart he is indeed a hero.