Parents parenting based on their wants or the good instinct
I just realised it has become so ridiculous to learn how can a mother who gets pregnant for almost ten months to hate her own daughter later in life knowing that the latter has not fulfilling all the wishes.
That include chasing own daughter out of the house during an argument, or uttering bad comments to irritate the child, and even worse caused injuries.
Unfortunately, this has actually happened to my 25-year-old sister who was still staying with them at that moment.
It was the day on which our grandmother passed away on the seventh day. Despite it fell on weekdays, most relatives spent time to return to hometown to offer prayers. However, sis didn't attend it as she wasn't a faithful Christian nor close to the 87th old woman.
Mom was angry when she returned home found out that sis had actually spent the evening with her fiance as well as the newly bought puppy.
Mom, who has been so active in church and almost earns the 'holiest' christian woman title in Sabah, assumed her act had embarrased her. Thus, she uttered a lot of sarcastic words that managed to anger the bigger size sis.
The argument began to the extend that dad had to interfere. It didn't help to calm the storm though. As sis inherited dad's and paternal grandma's bad temper, there was physically struggle between them. But, sis lost the domestic battle. Dad, I believe on unconscious level of mind, had grabbed sis's hair and made her fell on the floor.
Luckily, she managed to hold at the door handle to prevent from falling on her head. However, in unimaginable position, the engagement ring was bent and injured the finger. She forwarded me in whatsapp app of the bleeding digit, but I am pretty sure that her heart sustained severe injury.
It was believed during the struggle, mom and dad had told her to move out of the house for being so inobedient, not supplying the house with food stock and etc.
Anyway, I have yet become a parent and didn't set any ideas of how my child should become when she grows up. But hating is definitely the character I want to have.
As of now, I conclude that there are two types of parents in world.
The first is my parents who might give birth of the children with the hope that they will repay everything when the latter has started earning money. Probably, immediately after the child finishes secondary/high school the parents will think that the parenting ends there.
Others would be totally opposite. They sacrifice their youth as well as the later life with hopes that next generation including the child's future spouse and children will continue to want their service...
On what kind of parent will I become? Am waiting for the parenting moment.
That include chasing own daughter out of the house during an argument, or uttering bad comments to irritate the child, and even worse caused injuries.
Unfortunately, this has actually happened to my 25-year-old sister who was still staying with them at that moment.
It was the day on which our grandmother passed away on the seventh day. Despite it fell on weekdays, most relatives spent time to return to hometown to offer prayers. However, sis didn't attend it as she wasn't a faithful Christian nor close to the 87th old woman.
Mom was angry when she returned home found out that sis had actually spent the evening with her fiance as well as the newly bought puppy.
Mom, who has been so active in church and almost earns the 'holiest' christian woman title in Sabah, assumed her act had embarrased her. Thus, she uttered a lot of sarcastic words that managed to anger the bigger size sis.
The argument began to the extend that dad had to interfere. It didn't help to calm the storm though. As sis inherited dad's and paternal grandma's bad temper, there was physically struggle between them. But, sis lost the domestic battle. Dad, I believe on unconscious level of mind, had grabbed sis's hair and made her fell on the floor.
Luckily, she managed to hold at the door handle to prevent from falling on her head. However, in unimaginable position, the engagement ring was bent and injured the finger. She forwarded me in whatsapp app of the bleeding digit, but I am pretty sure that her heart sustained severe injury.
It was believed during the struggle, mom and dad had told her to move out of the house for being so inobedient, not supplying the house with food stock and etc.
Anyway, I have yet become a parent and didn't set any ideas of how my child should become when she grows up. But hating is definitely the character I want to have.
As of now, I conclude that there are two types of parents in world.
The first is my parents who might give birth of the children with the hope that they will repay everything when the latter has started earning money. Probably, immediately after the child finishes secondary/high school the parents will think that the parenting ends there.
Others would be totally opposite. They sacrifice their youth as well as the later life with hopes that next generation including the child's future spouse and children will continue to want their service...
On what kind of parent will I become? Am waiting for the parenting moment.
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